This post was written by Bhasmank Mehta, Posted on 7th March 2016,Updated on 23rd August 2016
(Silent) HINDU WEDDING CEREMONY
There is a substantial amount of knowledge and information that could be incorporated into every Hindu Ceremony, resulting in each part of the ceremony having more than one explanation. Considering time to be of the essence, it was felt that producing a “Tailor Made” ceremony for the couple involved, without altering the order of the ceremonial criteria, would be the ideal result. Following extensive study, About This Site I have been able to accomplish just that. The beauty is that not even the couple getting married will realise that certain messages are directed personally to them. Only in time, would this become apparent.
Now, because of these small changes each time, frequently I find that the audience chooses to listen and observe total silence, without any interruptions or disturbances.
Please remember that, you, the host, will have arranged this very special occasion meticulously by extending those very special invitations to a limited number of specially selected nearest and dearest. All is in place for the perfect day.
However, have you considered the importance of the right person for the job of the Sanatan Hindu Priest? It is my heart-felt belief that an absolutely perfect day will happen if you have your very own Sanatan Hindu Priest, Bhasmank Mehta, looking after you not only on the day itself but leading up to the ceremony and beyond. After all, it is The Second Most Important Day Of Your Life and it is of supreme importance to so many people surrounding you. Please know that I can explain and talk on the subject equally well in English, Gujarati or Hindi. I’d like to use the analogy that Bhasmank Mehta will prove to be the Icing on your Wedding Cake.
The thirteenth of the sixteen Sanskars (Process of Purification) is well known as The Wedding Ceremony. Whilst I am in the process of writing about the Sanskars in detail, this article specifically highlights various stages of a Wedding ceremony.
Now, this may sound a bit silly but generally speaking, according to the Hindu custom, or any custom for that matter, the minute the couple agree to tie the knot and such agreement is made public, the Wedding Ceremony is deemed to have begun. Of course, in Hindu Custom, this is mostly subject to parental approval. Thereafter, never mind the engagement; everyone wants to know when the wedding bells will ring.
The Wedding Ceremony is considered complete or shall we say, “and the couple lives happily ever after!” exactly a year after the day you got married (give or take a few days for convenience!). This will be celebrated with an anniversary party, a ceremony to recap the entire process starting with that all important question or proposal, “Will you get married to me?” to farewell party to that one very important individual, Ganesh. Only your very own Sanatan Hindu Priest – Bhasmank Mehta – can help make this event worth re-living. A proper farewell party for that very special one who helped make this process so simple and uncomplicated. This concluding ceremony is known as The Fourteenth Sanskar. The final send off, the farewell to those post-wedding jitters. The lunches and dinners with loved ones and sometimes the loathed ones, all but over, the honeymoon period well and truly over; soon to become a distant memory.
Not so long ago – just under 60 years ago – it took almost a week, if not longer, for The Wedding Ceremony to complete. In more recent times, this has reduced to less than 90 minutes. This does not mean that you are getting away with a short-cut. It’s just that a lot of time used to be taken by ladies with their numerous changes of Sarees, breaks in The Wedding Ceremony, loads of refreshment intervals but, above all, a long time spent looking for those pertinent individuals whose presence was required at the right time for the right event. Only, these individuals were often wondering around with friends or even disappeared to local eatery or where available, the nearest public house. Some aspects of the ceremony have since become obsolete as well. Though, I must say, some elements are being re-introduced for no apparent reason other than the new crop of Priests wants to impress. I do not condone some of these re-introductions since the more the couple understand the ceremony, the better the life thereafter. Some aspects of these re-introductions have been for the Priest’s own personal ego, neither saving time nor having any proper explanation.
Later, additional information will be made available including the if’s and but’s, the why’s and the what for’s of the ceremony. Suffice to say, this will entail various stages of the ceremony with brief explanations hitherto. Where more than one explanation is deemed suitable, from time to time I may, at my own discretion, replace such explanations. This is another reason for you to continue coming back to this page or the overall site for further up-dates.
Now, remember, at the time of your engagement, you had invited Ganesh – the one who is the remover of all obstacles and all that? Well, invariably one seldom bids farewell to Him. The consequences being that some hardship, some difficulties will occur in one’s life for no apparent reason. The anniversary is the time to bid farewell and thank Him for His presence not only during the ceremony but throughout this whole year and for staying with you and showing you the way forward. More on this within the section marked “Wedding”.
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