This post was written by Bhasmank Mehta, Posted on 2nd April 2016,Updated on 12th September 2016
IN days gone by, a wedding ceremony – although being the 13th Sanskar – was the first step in one’s life followed by every other step conceivable in accordance with Sanatan Hindu Dharma. People used to invite Brahmins to carry out ceremonies for many of those future activities. Somewhere along the line, as I will explain later in this article, the situation got slightly out of hand; slightly muddled up. So, I feel it is time that someone makes the effort to explain where our ancestors failed us and where we began to fail our children.
I am not saying that I am ‘The Guru’ of all. However, I have been blessed by being able to study numerous topics, which has given me the knowledge and opportunity to being able to inform others. From talking to the present day generation, it is apparent that many would like to know more but are unaware who to ask.
If we do not re-capture the essence of what was originally intended, we will all be led down a garden path that withers away into the wilderness of a modern-day-concrete-jungle. Like, for instance, the Mauritian, the Guyanese or even the Trinidadian Indian communities that I regularly come across. They tell me that their forefathers remembered very little and therefore, for some, it is difficult to link themselves with present day Indians. The culture, the language, the rituals and much more is similar to that of India as it was then – when their ancestors left India. So, in the first place, where, in my opinion, did this situation go wrong? How, when and where did the Sanatan (Hindu) Dharma’s basic principles fall apart?
Around three, maximum five generations ago, our forefathers left the shores of India because the colonials enticed them to do so or forced them with the promise of an alleged better life abroad. Apart from the British, there were the French, the Portuguese and others leading the Indians to distant destinations. As most of these migrants were in their late teens or early twenties, this new found freedom away from their parents was nothing short of a recipe for disaster. Yes, the desire for money was there, but only just. Still, they thought they knew everything, they thought they knew best insofar as how to tackle life’s issues in general, but not in Indian style anyway. Unfortunately, they fell into their own web of mistakes.
The biggest mistake they made was not having any elders besides them. Sure, survive, they most certainly did. But at what cost? The literature that our forefathers had so painstakingly put together was slowly but surely forgotten. No, worse, many thought it was useless, humbug. Others had no idea that such rituals even existed. Then there were those who were only interested in money. The result was and is obvious and as naked as the day we were born.
Don’t know and therefore Don’t believe; don’t care; what a load of rubbish; old fashioned … phrases like these began to come up as frequently as I have had hot dinners. Lack of basic knowledge on basic rituals caused frustrations that led to bad habits. Alcoholism, financial problems, wife beating, divorce, 24/7 living in anger, hate and many more such scenarios became regular occurrences. In later years though, the situation has improved but not before a lot of knowledge was lost along the way.
Yes, there are those who have, and there are those who at least think they have, retained some of their ancestral values. However, when it comes to teaching your children or even your grand-children in today’s fast life, most often do struggle.
In this website, I am hoping to bring all this together, all under one roof. Please rate this article and also ask away any questions you have. I, your very own Sanatan Hindu Priest, Bhasmank Mehta will do my level best to reply as soon as I have fully researched your question.
So, as I mentioned earlier, the Pre-Natal section will deal with situations occurring soon after the marriage has taken place. Always, before the first child is conceived – even if this situation happens to be earlier! Yes, I am aware of the fact that in current climate, certain couples have children prior to, or even not, getting married. As will become obvious, there is no reason to forego any future ceremonies just because you have missed the previous ones. After all, retaining some sort of identity with your origin will help those seeking same sometime in the coming years if not, generations.
So, without further ado, let us go straight to Garbhadhan Pooja.
Whatever, Whenever & Wherever You Do
At least, research. Our ancestors will not have spent valuable time writing volumes
God Bless & I Look Forward To Hearing From You
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